Happiness is understanding your true value in the World

Many months ago I wrote an article called “who am I” At that time I was pondering and wondering if I was OK. Every now and again we stumble through a period in our lives when life is moving at a peaceful pace, but we can’t help to wonder when the other shoe is going to drop. This is perfectly normal behavior especially when in our minds, life isn’t supposed to be easy or without conflict.  Let me explain….

Far too often we go through life feeling normal and content. Things in our daily life are neutral, and often times can feel quite uneventful and boring. As the days go on, we start to get a little bit more frustrated by this peace and begin to look for things to shake up the monotony.  This is the beginning of trouble.

What is it about thunder and lightning that makes us scared but oh so interested that it draws us closer to the noise? Why do we love to talk bad about criminals, but secretly want to know what it may feel like to almost get away with something? There is a dare-devil in all of us and if we are not careful, it could be the collapse of our sanity. Yes, there is a mental self sabotage gene within all of us.

Just recently I began to do some more soul searching feeling the need to get better and do better. I never want to settle for mediocrity, I want to live a life with purpose and passion. So, I asked myself “what is my purpose here on earth?” and this is what I heard.

My purpose on this planet is to be amazed with my own daily life knowing it will be forever changing as long as I recognize this fact and realize that life is what we make of it in the moment. In other words, enjoy the ride silly, and stop worrying about the ‘what if’s” I also realized and accepted that I am securely insecure and this is actually awesome. Understanding this fact about me allows my vulnerability to become my truth. As long as I face my fears head on and admit that I am fragile yet strong within my own skin, then nothing can ever harm me.

Finally, I heard the most powerful words of all, you can never heal, what you never feel. These words touched me deep, so much that I realized right then that any pain or discomfort that I had been experiencing was the real beginning of a new and amazing chapter of my life, and something good was about to happen.

When we stumble or hurt or when we question our own “why” this is Gods way of telling us that we are in the middle of a growth spurt. Nothing can heal and grow until we completely feel and know. Pain is a process and we must let it take its course. But in the end when it’s all healed and the scars are now filled in with love, that’s when we must rise up and be bold. We must take on future demons with more vigor and less fear. We must learn from our pain and trust in our lessons.

So today, I have a much clearer picture of why I am here and what my purpose really is. I understand that I am blessed and that I have a responsibility to unleash my gifts, even though I may not feel I’m effecting or changing anyone’s life. I learned to avoid that ego frame of mind by just doing something  to be noticed, but rather doing it because it’s who I am and it makes me happy. I learned that in the end, life will take care of itself and as long as I try my best each and every day I will be rewarded in ways I never thought possible.

Today, I ask you to take a look deep inside yourself and understand that where you are at this very moment, is exactly where you’re supposed to be. Accept the peace and contentment and stop looking to shake things up. Always be good to yourself because you are one of a kind, and somewhere, someone is counting on you. In the end, that peace and quiet, that stillness and dullness that we often view as emptiness, is actually growth.

I urge you not to take life in your own hands out of sheer fear or boredom, rather accept the pace of your daily existence and trust that you truly are making a difference. Being your true self in front of the mirror, one person, or a crowd of millions is all the same, as long as you are simply being yourself.

The Choice is within!

 

About The Author

B. Patrick Lewis

B. Patrick Lewis is a devout Christian who believes that without the mercy and forgiveness of God he would not be alive today. In the late 90’s, B. Patrick Lewis’s life was spinning out of control. But for the grace of God, family and rehabilitation, he has now become a leader in the Christian community. He is a devoted family man, published author and ordained pastor. He believes in second chances and encourages everyone to take a deep look within to discover their own truth. Choice Within is founded upon three basic principles of life – Gratitude, Love and Forgiveness. “We are all one and we are all Gods beautiful children. I believe life is too short not to love.” – B. Patrick Lewis

10 Comments

  • Tiffany Hatfield

    Reply Reply July 21, 2017

    You make life sweeter for all of us!!! Never stop!!! 😁😁😁

    • B. Patrick Lewis

      B. Patrick Lewis

      Reply Reply July 22, 2017

      God Bless you and thank you Tiffany.

  • Barbara

    Reply Reply July 22, 2017

    This article was just what I needed! When you explained what you learned about purpose and how you recognized that life is what we make of it in this moment. And how you allowed the pace of life, change and growth to happen, was very helpful indeed. Also, I can relate to the pain in having to feel it to heal it. As I am experiencing pain now. Its comforting to know I am exactly where I am supposed to be. And not to try to make something happen out of fear or boredom. But to respect the pace as I inhale the peace and contentment. I love how you explained that the growth process happens in the still and quiet moments. And to trust that I am making a difference as long as I am being myself and doing my best. This has been a eye opener to me as I am exactly in this process now. Learning to just be, feel it, and to allow growth and change. So that, I may help others through what I have experienced. Thank you for this life lesson that I will use immediately in my life! May God bless you always!

    • B. Patrick Lewis

      B. Patrick Lewis

      Reply Reply July 22, 2017

      Thanks Barbara, yes you are exactly where you are supposed to be. Stay in faith and watch God move your life.
      Blessings!

  • Susan

    Reply Reply July 22, 2017

    Thank you…i needed to hear this today…understand completely about mental self sabotage…my head sometimes is my worst enemy.i will practice this lesson today…thanks again for helping me see light instead of darkness.

    • B. Patrick Lewis

      B. Patrick Lewis

      Reply Reply July 24, 2017

      It is my pleasure, God Bless You.

  • Erik

    Reply Reply July 22, 2017

    Brian,

    Thanks for making yourself and obedient vessel and allowing the Holy Spirit to speak to many through you. You are a blessing and have a gift for sharing in a manner that many can relate to but not express. Stay on the journey!

    • B. Patrick Lewis

      B. Patrick Lewis

      Reply Reply July 24, 2017

      Thank You so much for your words of encouragement. You have been a real blessing in my life and your comments are what keep me going. God Bless You Eric!

  • Albert Ihezie

    Reply Reply July 28, 2017

    Wao! Purpose for life, Who am I, Why am I here! every great thinker as I have realized this about you pastor had had to think, write or talk about these things. It ends in serene acceptance of present reality. Well in my own little way, I was worried stiff for a long time until I realized God is the One who created me. Surely the God who brought me into this world must have a purpose. That settled my worries. I now live for His purpose and I find peace. However, I realize that growth is a continuous process. I want to understand ‘I am where I am supposed to be’ because I don’t feel I am where I am supposed to be at the moment.Thank you pastor for enlightening my day.

  • BlackCherry

    Reply Reply July 29, 2017

    what a blessing! you always keep my spirits up Sir

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